Note To Self: Be Positive

       Be Positive. What does it exactly mean? In simplest terms, it’s actually about filtering out negative thoughts. These negative thoughts are actually disruptive and oftentimes destructive to oneself.  Too much negativity is not good since it enables a person to lose sight of his perspectives in life.  

But why is it that no matter how badly we want to filter it out, it always makes its way back to our thoughts? For me, I think it’s all about the “chatter box” if I may borrow the phrase from Dr. Susan Jeffers, an American psychologist whom I never got the chance to meet. It’s actually the dreadful voice within oneself that keeps on telling us things that’s actually contradictory to what we really want to happen with our life. Oftentimes, all it does is to keep on embedding in our minds all the negativities in life.

If you allow yourself to get crushed by all of those negative thoughts then it could lead to depression. And it’s actually very dangerous because if a person is not careful then he could actually end up 6 feet under or in short commit suicide. We don’t want that don’t we? So what do we have to do to eliminate it? For me, I just want to make it simple. Practice.  Practice ignoring your “chatter box”. You can actually do it, you can actually train your mind just like the way you train your muscles. Replace all the negative thoughts with positive thoughts everytime you are about to hear your “chatter box” trying to whisper in your consciousness.

Believe me when I tell you that you have a lot more positive things happening in your life than you know of. You just have to look at the brighter side of life and not all the doom and gloom you think it offers you. Do this and you’ll instantly feel relaxed and at ease no matter where you are in life. Practice deep breathing, pause, and relax. Make it a habit and in no time you’ll be able to break free from the shackles of your self-inflicting negativity. May you have a blessed life.

Note To Self: Why Worry?

Worrying has been a problem for some if not most of us. But who can blame a person for harboring such negative thoughts? We live in a fast paced environment and at times it really gets overwhelming to some to just be able to cope up with the daily pressures that life has to offer. The expectations of other people and the standards that society has set upon you.  

But did any of you even ask yourselves the question “Why worry?” I heard from a lot of life coaches that 98% of what people worry about don’t come true anyway so if this is a known fact then why do we worry?  I think it’s simple, we worry because we don’t allow ourselves the time to reflect on whether or not we have a valid reason to worry. It has become an automatic response system all leading to negative thoughts. 

We must all learn to accept the fact that we are in control of our thoughts. We and we alone have power over it. We can control it not to worry and instead have a more positive outlook in life.  Worrying will not in any way help anyone live a healthy lifestyle. Instead, it just contributes to harming your body both physically and mentally. It will zap your strength, bring fatigue, headache, lower your immunity causing you more prone to colds, difficulty in breathing, focusing, sleeping, digestive problems and many other undesirable things that can affect your well-being. 

Whenever you are faced with the thought of worry, just relax, close your eyes and take a deep breath, search for that sense of balance within you and from there visualize all the beautiful things still happening in your life. Focus on the beautiful and filter out any negative thoughts causing you to worry. Let go of worry and drop it. You don’t need to carry that extra baggage with you. May you have a blessed life.

Note To Self: Don’t Lose Hope

In life, it’s always a good thing to have something to look forward to or something to hold on to. It gives us a sense of direction on where we want to go and what we want to achieve.  And that is why having HOPE is of utmost importance. Without it then one can have drooping shoulders, lose interest, focus, perspective, and eventually lose sight of his goals.

 I think we all heard the saying “hope springs eternal” which means that there’s always hope despite any seemingly difficult situation. And that is true, hope is always there no matter where and what situation in life you are at the moment. Hope is always there. 

I remember someone told me that “there is no hopeless situation, only people who feel hopeless”. When I heard that, it’s like everything felt so light and then I had that realization that I do have the choice to remain hopeful despite the odds.  There’s no need for me to feed my mind with negative what ifs because I always know that everything will work out good in the end. May you have a blessed life.

Note To Self: How To Overcome Fear

There are times when we have so many things that we wanted to get done but someway somehow there's a driving force that always makes sure that we don't do it.  And that force is called FEAR. FEAR is actually a very dangerous thing to harbor within one self. What FEAR does is it paralyzes you and makes you think and see scenarios that are not even going to happen. Many of us actually are very much acquainted with it and treated it as a very good friend whom we keep embracing on a daily basis. 

But you know what, you don't have to stick with just one friend. There's actually another one within yourself who is just waiting for you to get noticed. Let me introduce to you your new friend and I do really encourage you to make it your BESTFRIEND who will accompany you all the time. The name is COURAGE. It is the only thing strong and powerful enough that can beat FEAR. YOU have more COURAGE than you think. You only need to dig deeper within yourself and channel the strength to bring it to the surface. 

Now will you allow FEAR to ruin what could be a wonderful and exciting life for you? Or will you choose COURAGE which can bring about significant change in your life? A positive change that is for the better. Easier said than done right? Many of us know it but somehow we are more inclined to believe in the negative. The truth is vast majority of people in the world have allowed themselves to be ruled by FEAR and only a handful preferred living with COURAGE. As a result, many people are living way below what they should be having and ended up envying those who are living their lives to the fullest. 

You are not destined to live in FEAR. Your PURPOSE in life is to live in COURAGE. COURAGE to do what you really want with your life. The COURAGE to choose the course you wanted to take up in College; the COURAGE to  choose the school you wanted to go to; the COURAGE to switch careers; the COURAGE to ask your boss for a raise; the COURAGE to start and grow your own business; the COURAGE to speak up to your parents about what makes you really happy; the COURAGE to go on a trip for an adventure of a lifetime; the COURAGE to make mistakes and learn; the COURAGE to help others and change the world; the COURAGE to make the first move; the COURAGE to ask someone to go out on a date; the COURAGE to say “I love you” to your parents; the COURAGE to say “I’m proud of you” to your children; the COURAGE to fail and try again; and most of all the COURAGE to make a conscious effort to overcome FEAR. 

If the voice of FEAR is whispering on your left, then all you need to do is turn to your right, and from there choose to listen to the loud voice of COURAGE telling you to go on, move forward, and live your life. Just imagine if you allow enough room for COURAGE to operate, then the possibilities are endless. Your dream girl could be yours if you just take the COURAGE to walk straight to her and ask her on a date; your dream man could be yours if you just take the chance to fall in love once more; your dream job could be yours if you just take the COURAGE to switch careers instead of settling for something less; you could be enjoying your course in college because you take the COURAGE to take up the course you really like; you could be enjoying traveling around the world if you just take the COURAGE to explore and go out on an adventure; you could be enjoying a higher salary if you just take the COURAGE to ask your boss for a raise; you could be the boss of your own business if you just take the COURAGE to start your own. The list can go on and on but I think you get the picture that everything is gearing towards you having a wonderful life. 

Practice having COURAGE in your daily life. Even small acts of COURAGE can allow you to build on something greater. What if things didn’t work out as you expected despite having COURAGE to do it? Simple, just have the COURAGE to accept the outcome or consequences of your actions and simply try again. There’s no guarantee in life that everything could work out as you expected but what life expects you to do is to always have the COURAGE to face it no matter what it hands you. May you have a blessed life.



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